Time and again, I’ve been asked the same questions by many friends and romance readers - where
did I find such gorgeous hunks to grace my website? How do you become friends with them? Why is it that the hunks are
friendly to you and not us?
I would react with surprise (still do) and smiled. “Well, I meet these men at romance conventions, at parties, through
mutual friends and while working in movies. I just go right up to them and introduce myself.”
“No, that can’t be it. Please, tell us the secrets,” the ladies would plead.
“Secrets? Frankly, that was it, say hello, shake their hands, then talk, nothing fancy or magical.”
Again the women would say, “No, we have been watching you. You did more than just introduce yourself. WHAT
DO YOU REALLY DO OR SAY TO THEM that makes them drawn to you like bees to honey and follow you around
like puppies. We want that.”
Seriously, befriending a gorgeous hunk is really not a Herculean task. It has been a fun and interesting experience for
me and so it should be for you. I don’t resort to any spells, rules or throw myself at the hunks' feet to get their attention.
I have to confess, I was a shy person and it took me a long time before I became comfortable talking to just anyone. And
even till today, there were moments of shyness that prevented me from approaching a good looking man.
So what does it take to get these men take notice of you and want to be with you? Here are some pointers that really
help:
1) You’re worthy
Just because the models and hunks are gorgeous, doesn’t mean that you have to look like Cindy Crawford or Pamela
Anderson to catch their attention. Don’t let your insecurity about your body, weight, hair and fashion style to stop you from
approaching the hunks. You may assume these men are shallow, but you have no idea that a certain body part like your eyes
or your lips attract their attention more so than a pair of big boobs, a beautiful face or a pin thin figure. Trust me, not all men
go for the same thing. “Legs turn me on”, a blonde hunk said to me. “Great personality is a big plus,” a group of them chorused.
“Her scent”, “Her confidence” or “Her infectious laugh”, the rest added. That’s right ladies, every one of you have special
qualities that would make the hunks sit up and take notice. Be confident about yourself.
2) Body Language
Some women at romance conventions stared at the cover models like they were examining a bug under a microscope.
Sure, models are used to being stared at, they like that you notice them. But then it makes them uncomfortable when
you look at them critically. Never whisper your assessment of the hunk to your girlfriends or talk about him loudly as if he
isn’t there. He’s not stupid nor deaf. Worse, the hunk may interpret your stares and whispers as if you are laughing at him.
It is puzzling that there are women who actually liked the hunks, behaved with such great disdain and hostility that they looked
ready to battle with them. No wonder the hunks wouldn’t talk to them, they just want to stay the hell away.
Why exhibit such contradicting behavior? A few ladies confessed that they feared being judged as desperate and acting like sluts
if they showed even a hint of their liking for the hunks. So they put on a stern demeanor. Seriously, being friendly does not
make you a slut or a desperate woman. Friendliness opens the door and breaks the ice. So smile, be warm and the
hunks will warm up to you.
3) Courage my love!
“Don’t be shy, they won’t bite!”. Really, it makes me laugh to see women run off and blend in with the wall as soon
as they see handsome hunks. An acquaintance of mine confessed haughtily that she would rather hide behind a palm tree than approach a hunk.
These women were so afraid of approaching the hunks that they would rather eat a bug than talk to them. In fact, some trembled
so badly that their hearts almost gave up on them, or were so nervous and excited that they went blabbering on like idiots. I sense that
these women also have no idea how to hold a conversation with the hunks.
All right, they are drop dead gorgeous. So what? They are HUMANS, Not gods or kings! These men like to be seen as
special but at the same time, they want you to treat them like any normal man. Talk to them like the way you would talk to
a newly acquainted friend. After the initial “hello, how are you?” you may start the ball rolling by asking him about his
modelling career, where is he from or if he is enjoying himself at the ball or party. Since you show an interest in them and
their work, you can be assured that the hunks would respond favorably.
Unbeknownst to many, some of the hunks are surprisingly very shy. Their shyness might be interpreted as being aloof
and arrogant. One of the Fantasy hunks confided that he preferred the woman to make the initiative move to introduce
herself. To him it’s a green light to show that you like him as a person and that you’re approachable. So ladies, you aren’t
the only one who is shy or fear being rejected.
4) Respect
“Please do not treat us like giggolos or Himbos, we hate that!” a common complaint from the hunks. Yep, I have
witnessed first hand how some women who were absolutely enthralled by the hunks, went right up to them and behaved
like they were at a strip joint. They would squeeze the men's butts, touch their chests liberally or worse, squeezed their balls
(I saw that!) That’s A BIG NO, NO. I was horrified and appalled when several desperate women daringly flashed their
boobs in a bar, thinking the hunks would fall utterly in lust with them. Guess what, the hunks took a brief look, got out of their
chairs and walked away. O.K. some men might be turned on but really Men are the hunters, they
like to hunt and not be hunted. We want men to respect us and not treat us like sex object so it goes the same for the
hunks. It’s not surprising that these men are turned off rather than turned on.
5) Dress for Success
Men are more visual than women, so they say. Well, you don’t have to dress like Jennifer Lopez and Madonna in
order to catch the hunks’ attention. Some men prefer women to dress conservatively rather than wearing nothing more
than a Q-tip. “A little mystery is so much more enticing,” one of the Fantasy hunks confessed. “It makes me want to know
the real woman beneath the dress.” But certainly a sexy outfit especially a body- hugging one would jump start the heartbeat
of a dead man so it would too for any full blooded hunk. If you’re the type that button your top all the way, maybe try wearing
something that would reveal your beautiful neck. Some men (besides Vampires) are crazy for women’s neck. It’s a great place
to kiss. Most important, it all depends on your comfort level, dress the way you are, your personality and friendliness should be
your big selling points.
6) No Jealousy, Catfights and Tantrums
It’s unbelievable that those of us who are friendly with the models have been called names publicly and almost have our
eyes scratched out. And these jealous women aren’t even the hunks’ honey. So please, BE PROFESSIONAL and CLASSY!
Tantrums, catfights, staring daggers and being demanding would chase any man away. ATTRACT NOT REPULSE
is the key.
7) Stroke their egos
Face it, we like to be complimented, so do the hunks. So go ahead and tell the hunks how good they look. This would
make them very happy. Mind you, these men spend a lot of time, energy and discipline to pump up their bodies. It’s not just
vanity, it’s for their health and their profession. Their good looks and physiques help them to get modelling gigs so it would be
nice to tell them that their hard work pay off and that they are attractive. Remember, don’t go overboard with your compliments
or you’ll come across as insincere.
8) Be Playful
It’s all right to be playful and a little flirtatious. Flash them your seductive smile and give them the come-hither look. When
you find yourself and the hunks having a good time conversing, a light touch on the hunks’ arm signals that you like them and
enjoy their company. I had several hunks roaring with laughter and their imagination driven wild when I told them my erotic
stories (starring them as the hero). I got their attention and plenty more when the first group told another group of hunks
about my stories. Very quickly, I was surrounded and had a ball of a time being entertained. On the other hand, dirty jokes,
gossips and racist remarks should be avoided.
9) Be a Good Listener
We want men to pay attention to what we say so it goes the same with them.
10) Be Supportive
Nothing hurts a person more and turn them off completely by being critical and slamming them down. Please do not roll
your eyes or show signs of irritation while talking to your favorite hunk or waiting for him to finish off his conversation with
another fan. It’s rude and unbecoming. Don’t pout your lips or fret if your hunk can’t talk to you at that moment. Smile.
Always be gracious, polite and patient. Yes, BE PATIENT.
11) Business Cards
So, you’ve got the hunks’ attention.You want to stay in touch. Have some business cards with your home phone number
and email address on it. During your conversation, give the card to the hunk. Try this line, “I really enjoy talking to you, you’re
so nice. Here’s my card, do you have a business card?” In this way, you won’t be seen as desperately needy or trying to pick
them up (especially you’re married or dating someone seriously but you want to be friends with them). Of course, the hunk
would take your card, look at it and keep it in his pocket. If he has his business cards and he's comfortable with you, he would
certainly give one to you. Remember, you made the first move, so the ball is on the hunks’ court. Whether they would keep in
touch with you or not is up to them. The important thing is that the hunk has your number. Again, there is no harm in emailing or
sending a card to the hunks. Your thoughts would certainly be appreciated.
As for those of you looking for Mr. Right, be sure that your favorite hunk is truly single and available. It’s pointless to
try capturing someone whose heart is already taken. Also avoid being involved with a player. Why waste time and hurt
yourself (unless you just want a no-string attached affair). Ladies, guard your heart.
12) Obsession
There is a difference between being friendly and obsessed. It’s frightening that just because the hunk returns their
fans' phone call, email or letter, some of these obsessed fans believe that the hunk is in love with them. To show their
affection and appreciation, these women would phone and email the hunk ten to twenty times a day. So instead of a friendship
and closeness, they got a restraining order.
